My Thoughts on Inauguration Day

Obama's Oath

I didn’t vote for Barack Obama but I can tell you that today I am celebrating a great historical moment in our nation. I have laughed, cried, and been in total awe watching the inaugural ceremony today. What a country we live in that on this day we watch an African American become president when it wasn’t too long ago that they could not be served in restaurants, sit in the front of the buses, or share the same water fountain as whites. I have thanked God so many times today for the progress this country has made. Are we there yet? Absolutely not, but thank God we’re not where we used to be!

I have been blessed to witness this historical event. I pray that he will lead this country in a new direction for the better. Today I celebrate President Barack Obama, I celebrate a great nation that has allowed an African American to be our president, and I celebrate our God for He is good and mighty!

On a side note, I thank God for former President George Bush. I believe he led us to the best of his ability. We all make mistakes, hind sight is 20/20, but that shouldn’t make him the scapegoat for the problems our country has been in. Responsibility falls on every one of us from the former president, to congress, both Republicans and Democrats alike, all the way down to each one of us personally. That’s my opinion anyway. Thank you former President Bush for protecting & defending  our country and for your dedication to our country over the last eight years. God Bless you.

God Bless President Barack Obama and

God Bless America!


Week in Review

  • My 3 favorite shows started this past week: 24, American Idol, and Battlestar Galactica (this one is TOPS). Doesn’t get much better than that! If you don’t watch these you are sadly missing out on the best TV ever!
  • Started the Daniel fast
  • Had a hellacious headache for 2 days straight…it was almost killer!
  • For the most part the fast has been good…I’ve been low carbing it for a while now so these foods are actually a treat for me. So that’s kind of cool.
  • found out that I love Soy milk…who knew? Even Jenna & Matthew like it.
  • It’s been really cold here. I don’t like the cold anymore. I don’t care that I was born and raised in Michigan I will never go back to that cold and snow….well if God makes me that’s another thing, but He’ll have to really convince me it’s Him making me go!
  • the boys went back to school this past week…wooohooo! It’s been nice and quiet around here, you know I love that!
  • Thomas made straight A’s on his report card. Yeah! I’m proud of him!
  • Things are still very tight financially I mean like squeezing hard tight but I am ok. God has blessed me with so much grace to handle this right now. It’s amazing, I should be like really freaking out. Poor Tom is doing enough of that for the both of us though. He needs a lot of prayer right now, it’s affecting him hard & it’s trickling down to every area of his life.
  • 8 more days and I turn ____! Oh my gosh! That’s crazy!
  • So today at church Pastor Bstepped ALL over my toes! Ouch, ouch! I was hurting afterwards and left with a lump in my throat. For real. I love to hear a message that convicts you and challenges you to rise up. I will blog more about it later. It really shook me up.
  • going to continue with the Daniel fast and see it all the way through. Tom and I had planned in December to do a fast for a week and then our church decided to do the 21 days. We still had it in our minds to do only a week then I read this and that changed my perspective on it completely!
  • On to another week…make it a good one folks!

2008 A Year in Review

Wow 2008 is over.  Hard to believe another year has ended and now we forge on to a new year ahead. I have this excitement building in me for the coming year. I have no idea what it holds, but I am really excited about it.

I have been reflecting on this past year this whole month. I think just about everyday I have had to stop and thank God for this past year. I have seen amazing growth and progress in me over the past 12 months. It was a slow progress but progress none the less. Things have happened in me and changed me in ways I could never even begin to describe.

I know at the beginning of this year I was crying out to God for freedom, healing, and to know Him in a deeper way. I remember dreaming of being free from emotional chains that had me bound. I am amazed how He has answered those prayers and dreams. It has deepened my faith, my trust, and given me confidence I have not known in many years. I can truly say that I have FREEDOM in many areas of my life. Self made chains and shackles have been broken link by link. It’s awesome! It’s an awesome feeling to feel free.  I believe this growth was preparation for the coming year that’s why I am excited about 2009.



Goodbye 2008, hello 2009. I can’t wait to see what lies ahead.

Happy New Year everyone!

Things I’m Learning

Here are a few things I am learning while dealing with a difficult person.

I am learning to:

  • become more patient
  • be more compassionate
  • forgive quicker
  • be more understanding
  • lean on God more
  • pray more about situations instead of griping about them
  • roll with the punches so to speak
  • see the positive first in everything
  • love the unlovely
  • not look at others through a magnifying glass
  • not see myself through rose colored glasses

I am realizing that I too can be difficult at times. This makes me more aware of how that makes those around me feel when I am difficult. I can sit here and justify my issues but being difficult weather big or small is still not good. It doesn’t honor God when I am being difficult.

I want my life to honor my Father. If that means changing my ways then so be it. God is so good.

Dealing with a Difficult Person


I’m just going to vent for a second here….I have been totally frustrated, annoyed, irritated, and just plain ticked. Why? You ask. Well I have a difficult person in my life. I’ve had a difficult person in my life for as long as I can remember. It’s really been getting bad and I need some relief in this area of my life so I have been PRAYING a lot about it. The following are some of my thoughts on this subject, maybe just a reminder to myself to help me endure the difficult person in my life.

So far I have come up with these truths:

·         There will always be difficult people in the world. Some you can just turn away & never deal with again, some are family or coworkers who you have to deal with. That’s just life, like there will always be sin in the world because of the fall, there will always be difficult people.


·         It doesn’t matter what you do you just can’t please some folks.


·         When dealing with these difficult people, remember it’s more about them than you. Try not to take it personally. Hurting people hurt people. They don’t even realize how difficult they are.


·         Most difficult people are just angry, bitter & resentful people and unfortunately take it out on those closest to them.


·         You can’t change a difficult person! Only God can change them, with a little help from the difficult person themselves.


So how does one cope with a difficult person? I am going to try and put into action the following:

·         Love them anyway, no matter how hard that is to do


·         Try and see them through the eyes of Jesus and not my own eyes


·         Focus on the positive attributes of the difficult person


·         Try to empathize if not than sympathize


·         Have patience, my lack of patience only exasperates the situation


·         Don’t argue with them, it’s pointless


·         Try and keep a sense of humor


·         Pray for them (and myself)


Having to deal with a difficult person in your life can leave you exhausted, stressed, and really bring you down with all their negativity. I think most important is to keep myself before the Lord. He is the only one who can give me strength, endurance, and patience to see me through when I am dealing with this difficult person.

I think the Lord is dealing with me in how I respond to this difficult person. I really want to do the right thing it’s just SO hard sometimes. But I know that I am called to do better and be better. So after weeks of suffering from irritation & frustration over my difficult person I began to seek the Lord in the situation. I told Tom that this person was going to be my service project this holiday season. I am going to do right, act right, be nice and patient even if it kills me!


Do you have a difficult person in your life? If so, how do you cope with them? Especially when that person is a close family member?


Walmart Worker Dies in Black Friday Rush


“A Wal-Mart employee died and four others were hurt in the Black Friday rush to get into the Valley Stream store this morning”

You can read all about this horrific incident here.


What a pathetic society we live in today when one day we are sitting around the table being thankful for all we have and the next we are trampling people to death just to get a good deal on an item. Something is terribly wrong here people! This kind of stuff really ticks me off.

This is an example of another reason why I DO NOT shop on Black Friday. This incident is meaningless and appalling. It’s just unreal that people are so enveloped in this shopping experience that they can hurt or kill others in the process.

This is not the first time this has happened. If people would not participate in this yearly event it might force retailers to do something different. People should not have to die just so someone can get a good deal on something. Things are not worth human life!

This is solely my opinion, if you don’t like it that’s fine, don’t read it. But right now I am ticked off over this! This makes no sense to me.


Happy Thanksgiving


Happy Thanksgiving everyone. We have a lot to be thankful for on this day. I can’t wait to dig into the food today, ohh yes, I am totally blowing my eating habits for this day. One day won’t kill me right? Here’s our menu for today:

♦ fried turkey (they are great)

♦ mashed potatoes & gravy

♦ stuffing

♦ green bean casserole

♦ corn pudding

♦ rolls

♦ pumpkin pie

♦ apple pie

I am thankful that we are blessed with so much food. There are millions of people around the world who are hungry today.

What’s on your menu today?



What I’m Thankful for Today (Monday)


My Goofy hubby. Matthew was so embarassed that his Dad was being so goofy that he hid his face.


Yesterday I told you that I was thankful for my church, ROCK Church. You can read about that here.

Today I am thankful for my husband Tom. Tom and I have been through a lot of ups and downs over the course of our marriage. But a few things have remained constant through it all.

  • Tom has always been supportive of me & anything I want to do
  • Tom took in two kids that weren’t his and always treats them as if they were
  • Tom is a wonderful father
  • Tom has put up with a lot junk from me
  • Tom is a good listener..he listens to my worries, my whines, my dreams, my gripes, my hopes, my hurts, my silly remarks, etc
  • Tom is funny. He’s like a kid sometimes which is what I liked so much about him in the begining, then it got old fast, but now I appreciate it even more
  • Tom is an awesome provider, he’s a hard worker
  • He’s a great “fix-it” guy, he can fix anything
  • Tom is easy going, which is good for a type A personality like myself. It has caused conflict but his laidbackness has softened me up over the years, helped me to relax a little
  • Tom is commited to our marriage & family
  • Tom is fun to be around
  • This list could go on and on but I’ll stop it here

Our marriage has not always been perfect, we’ve struggled in several areas but I am thankful for Tom. I am thankful that he loves me and he loves me even though I am far from perfect. I thank God for Tom because he has brought a lot to my life. I can’t imagine my life without him.

What are you thankful for today?

What I’m Thankful for Today

Rock Church 

Four days before Thanksgiving and I thought I’d take the next few days to post some things I am thankful for. I know I sometimes take things for granted but during this holiday season I have decided that I would really focus on the things that really matter.

For today I am very thankful for my church, Rock Church! It has been three years since we started coming to the Rock. When we started at the Rock we had left a church home we had been in for five years. A church that we were very much involved in and in the end a church that had hurt us terribly. I am still to this very day reeling from the effects of that hurt.

To be honest when I came to the Rock I pretty much had no faith in church, absolutely no faith or trust in church leadership, and unfortunately at the time not much faith in God because of things that had happened. I was really confused, disoriented and dazed about all of it. No one knew the hurt I had or the confusion I was experiencing. I went through the first few years just sitting back and watching and listening to everything that was said & done. I mean I watched like a hawk. Months went by and nothing seemed amiss but I just couldn’t relax or let go of the hurt I had. We would come and then we would be out for awhile. Still so confused about where we were supposed to be and also for me I just couldn’t trust a church or it’s leadership. I have to say that one of things that did make us come was our kids. It was one thing if we gave up on church but always in the back of our mind was that the kids needed to have a strong foundation and in the state we were in we weren’t giving them anything positive about church or faith in God. (So sad but so true)  And they loved coming to church at the Rock Church.

The Rock church has proven to me after three years of attending that they are a church that does not under any circumstances judge anybody. Wow! I mean I have sat and watched and listened, they have never done that. There were times we were literally told that we were dying and going to hell just for not going to church on a Sunday night at another church.  Every single time we were out at the Rock and we came back people were glad to see us and genuinely concerned about us. Sometimes I would get a call or an email just checking in on us. This lady has been such an inspiration to me on so many occasions. If anyone has convinced me just by their actions, their support, and genuine concern, that the Rock and it’s leadership is the real thing it’s her!

I am still growing and learning to get past the past hurts, distrust, and all those things associated with being so deeply hurt by a church and leaders in a church. But in a place like the Rock Church it sure makes things easier to deal with.

So today I am thankful for the Rock Church, our Pastor, his wonderful wife, the founding pastors, and all those in the church who have accepted us unconditionally and without passing judgement. I thank you and I thank God for you. And I bless this church for being the type of church that it is; a non judgemental refuge of hope for hurting people.

What are you thankful for today?

This plus This = 12 pounds lighter



So alot of this………


Exercise Room


And less of this….




And a lot less of this….



= me lighter! Am I bragging? Well, yea. You would too. Plus if I write it then it makes me more accountable to keeping it off and staying on track because it is SO easy to get lazy and not exercise or eat right. (Now just so you know one of those machines is borrowed from a friend, two were bought at yard sales really cheap a few years ago, and one piece was bought brand new about 4 years ago.)

 Since January 7th of this year I have lost a total of 12.4 pounds and several inches here and there. Gotta feel good about that. It hasn’t been the easiest thing to do. Somedays Most days I just absolutley hate exercising. There are a lot of days I just want to eat a lot of really bad things. But since losing some pounds I find some of those foods just aren’t worth the risk anymore.

So much has changed for me this year. I have found that there are many things that just aren’t worth it anymore. Such as….

  • eating chips & dip every other night isn’t worth it anymore
  • eating all those “bad” carbs isn’t worth it anymore
  • worrying and fretting just isn’t worth it anymore
  • being depressed about turning 40 soon isn’t worth it anymore
  • being ticked and staying ticked isn’t worth it anymore
  • being so pessimistic isn’t worth it anymore
  • being stressed all the time isn’t worth it anymore
  • holding onto unforgiveness isn’t worth it anymore
  • living in fear isn’t worth it anymore
  • getting irratated easy isn’t worth it anymore

There are many things I could list that just aren’t worth it anymore. Why aren’t they worth it anymore? I finally came to the point that happiness, being healthy, living in peace were so much more valuable than living in constant irritation, depression, being unhappy about my weight, and so on.

It’s good to finally get to a point in your life where peace reigns more than choas. You’d think I would have learned that much earlier but I guess better late then never. This is a good place to be.

So, what’s not worth it to you anymore?

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